“When you come to the realization that the only person who you need to make happy is yourself, your entire life will change and it will become what you always wanted it to be.” ACM First things first. For some reason, I do not listen to myself. I read things, I think I’ve absorbed it, … Continue reading U-turn: Duh Moments… →

The problem is... I keep saying no to myself and yes to way too many people... A lady that I would like to get to know even better posted the above meme on Facebook. I appreciate her quirkiness. She is very personable and intriguing. And she is also one of a handful of people who … Continue reading Rest Stop: Self-Discovery →

“Codependency is an unhealthy focus on other people’s problems, feelings, and needs.” – Sharon Martin It fascinates me how I can know something, and still repeat the same pattern. It’s not the people that I come into contact with that are the problem. It’s me. I’m my own biggest problem. Last night, I told a … Continue reading Caution Cone #2: Road Work Ahead →

”I’ll be your dream, I’ll be your wish, I’ll be your fantasy. “I’ll be your hope, I’ll be your love be everything that you need” – Savage Garden I am 41 years old. I was with my ex-life partner for close to 19 years. That is almost half my life. We did not have a … Continue reading Pit Stop: Asking for Directions →

Sometimes I wonder where I've been, Who I am, Do I fit in. I may not win,  But I can't be thrown, Out here on my own, ~Irene Cara Amazing to me all the musical lyrics that I know. I watch the movies and I don’t really hear the notes or the beauty of the … Continue reading Road Tunes →

It’s a dangerous business going out of your door. You step onto the road and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.” – J.R.R. Tolkien Coming out is a continual process. Self-Acceptance is the beginning of coming out and there is no easy way to go … Continue reading Danger Signs: Bumpy Terrain Ahead →

"When you say 'yes' to others make sure you are not saying 'no' to yourself." -- Paolo Coehlo I have been attending a once-a-month speaker series at work called Women in Leadership and Learning (WILL). The first three sessions were categorized as "Put on Your Oxygen Mask First:" 1) Mental Health, 2) Self Care, and … Continue reading Rest Stop: Self-Care →

"When we find the courage to share our experiences and the compassion to hear others tell their stories, we force shame out of hiding and end the silence." -- Brene Brown Addiction. I am an addict. I am not going to lie about it. Lying will only make things worse. Over more than half of … Continue reading Caution Cone #1 – FEAR →